Today’s edition has two bloggers with two different perspectives.
Anuradha Rao says:
I am tempted to agree with Oscar Wilde when he said that it is indeed a dreadful experience to sit next to someone who has spent his / her life trying “…to educate others”. It is indeed true of the coaching experience too. One cannot be a good (let alone being effective) coach and facilitate the process of introspection without having used the process on oneself. The biggest challenge for a coach is to be able to look at the issue / challenge as separate from the self and hence any kind of introspection turns into an argument of sorts which can be quite demotivating. Not to forget that there is no coach (especially, in this case) to facilitate the process. I am the Coach. I am the Coachee. I am the process.
Tips that can help introspect… in essence, Walk the Talk:
Tip 1: Be comfortable in your skin. There is no need for me to know everything about myself all the time. Neither is there the need for me to do a root cause analysis of how I am feeling about everything. Accepting how I feel and going with the flow is imperative to being comfortable under my skin. Most coachees tend to go looking for reasons and finding faults in a way that is equivalent to finding a buried treasure. Well, it is not!!!!Looking for reasons and fault finding is like digging up graves and there is no coming back. A coach who is able to let go and be in the moment is able to better support his / her coachees
Tip 2: Ask the right questions. Avoid WHY questions and most importantly WAIT for the answer. While working with a coachee, we facilitate the process. We take on part of the job and ask the questions thereby simplifying (to an extent) the process. However, when working with self, the roles are merged. My mentor once told me “Waiting for the answer is like waiting for a thunderstorm. You know it’s coming. You can perhaps also predict it to an extent. However, tough to say how hard it will be and if it will make you dance in it or cry”. Waiting for the answer makes us patient and helps us grow thereby polishing a skill – Listening – that is key to good coaching.
Anuradha Rao
Anuradha Rao comes with a total of 23 years of experience in the area of Learning and Development. She has gathered experience both as an entrepreneur and as training lead for E Capital International Services, IBM BTO Operations, MphasiS (HRD), Genpact China and Global Talent & Development lead for Deutsche Bank Operations International (DBOI). Currently, she is faculty (OB and OD) with the Centre for Organisation Development (COD) and the Founder of Aaradhya Learning and Development Solutions where she works on designing, developing and Implementing Learning Solutions. Anuradha has a PhD in English Literature from the CIEFL, Hyderabad, a Diploma in Journalism, is trained on Methods & Methodologies of Learning and Content Development and a certified Coach from Neuro Leadership Group. LinkedIn Profile Personal Blog
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Rashima Malhotra says:
I would like to show my gratitude and thank all the individuals across the world who have brought coaching to the mankind. I extend my thanks to the ICF Hyderabad Charter Chapter for this initiative and platform.
I am sharing my reasons for coaching self and others. It has been a miraculous journey for me as I experienced coaching to be the most powerful and effective tool for the progress of mankind. All the coaches who believe that coaching is a way of being will seamlessly walk the talk.
Why should I self coach or coach others, because:
I see value in coaching
Coaching is a way of being
Coaching is a way forward
While you coach self or others, you ask, you probe, you listen, you acknowledge, you encourage, you partner, you bring the underlying issues forward, you challenge, you empower
Coaching is transformational and can bring shifts / changes within you for life
Coaching turns to doing and doing turns to action and our actions are our ‘karma’
Coaching is out of box thinking
Coaching unlocks potential and there is no barrier to your visioning, thus you make realistic goals to achieve your vision
Coaching gives one clarity and in turn you achieve peace of mind and happiness which may be valuable to you
Coaching works as the onus is on self
Coaching helps you bring your dreams to life
Coaching helps you achieve, live and work towards your wants and desires
Positive attitude, belief in yourself, faith in what you do are few attributes you may want to possess
Self coach…coach others….and contribute to the mankind is an oath I take. What is your perspective, do share.
Thank you for reading the blog, I would like to encourage and recommend all the readers to read the GROW Model by Sir John Whitmore; this will help you develop yourself and others.
Rashima Malhotra, ACC
A people oriented professional with eighteen years of insightful experience in Organization development, Leadership development and Coaching (Executive Coaching; Group Coaching; Life Coaching).Excellent interpersonal communication, leadership and people management skills with extensive experience in training operations and development of workforce.Lead, strategize and manage key projects that leverage L&D skills to meet various needs identified by the business, on an ongoing basis. LinkedIn Profile
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